words to live by

2015, December, Inspiration

If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.
William J. Clinton

Our divine nature has nothing to do with our personal accomplishments…Our divine nature comes from God.
Rosemary M. Wixom

All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.
Walt Disney



Hard is trying to rebuild yourself, piece by piece, with no instruction book, and no clue as to where all the important bits are supposed to go.”
Nick Hornby, A Long Way Down

It’s humbling to start fresh. It takes a lot of courage. But it can be reinvigorating. You just have to put your ego on a shelf & tell it to be quiet.
Jennifer Ritchie Payette

Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn.
C. S. Lewis

Here then is a great truth. In the pain, the agony, and the heroic endeavors of life, we pass through a refiner’s fire, and the insignificant and the unimportant in our lives can melt away like dross and make our faith bright, intact, and strong.
James E. Faust



loss and gain

2014, Inspiration, October

i started writing this post with a whole bunch of philosophical thinking. or at least what i thought was philosophical. let’s face it, it probably wasn’t.

but let me just put it simply.

i’m in a very transitional stage of life right now. a lot of things are moving and changing and some of it is making me uncomfortable.

and i don’t know what to do with it.

let me explain a little.

i’m in the process of moving out of my parents house. figuring out a future with the ex now current bf (all good things here). interviewing for jobs. in a temporary job that is ever-changing. and other things.

i think back to the last few years. of what i have lost.

and what i have gained.

i have “lost” money when i started an online shoe business (which didn’t do so well). but i gained experience, business relationships, knowledge about building customer relationships that i wouldn’t have otherwise learned.

i “lost” money again when i decided to move to the states and study business entrepreneurship (which was a result of “losing” the business^^). i gained….i don’t even know where to begin. i gained friends. friends who are family, friends who will stay friends for many more years to come. experiences that will stay with me for the rest of my life. i learned how to love and how to forgive in ways that i wasn’t prepared for.

loss and gain go hand in hand. and upon recognising what i have gained over what i have lost it makes this thing, this transitional thing seem all the more worth it.

i also watched this video from my all time favourite youtubers soul pancake and cried a little. oh dear.

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day 23: five things i’ve learned that school didn’t teach me


i know things have changed quite a bit since i finished school {it’s been 11 years already – so crazy}.

a lot has changed in that time. but also a lot hasn’t changed. here are 5 things school didn’t teach me {and perhaps it was because it was the school i went to…maybe things have changed now}:

  1. budgeting / saving: i got myself into so much debt while at university. thankfully everything is paid off {other than my student loan}. today i am much much better. but that is after a lot of wasted money and even time learning from mistake after mistake. whether it’s saving for a car, house or new handbag, knowing how to do it makes all the difference. {p.s. i’m still learning}.
  2. job hunting: this is so imperative. why oh why is this not taught in school? it’s not just the looking it’s the preparing, understanding and learning how to set yourself apart. i am even surprised it’s a mandatory class at university. because that’s basically what you have to do throughout the rest of your life.
  3. networking: i guess this links in with point number 2. but in all honestly i strongly believe the best way to get s job is through networking. very often it’s not what you know but of course who you know.
  4. dealing with failure: it’s different for everyone. but as a society we need to get better at that. there’s the whole argument of rewarding everyone in class vs. rewarding the most successful. if kids don’t learn how to deal with failure, and more importantly, how to learn from it. failures are good.
  5. positive thinking: this changes everything.

basically, major life lessons.


day 13: a hard lesson learned

2014, Blogging, Inspiration, July, Love

imagine meeting someone who understands even the dustiest corners of your mixed-up soul.
– unkown –

dating. and broken hearts. shed tears. and disappointment.

last year i dated two guys, almost one after the other, who weren’t really good for me from the beginning. but i clung on because at the time there was nothing else. and i needed it. i needed someone. i needed something. and anything was better than the loneliness that i was feeling. it was a kind of hollowness i had never felt before.

it was at a time when an unwelcome change had occurred in my life and i didn’t have anyone. at least at that moment it felt that way. plus being several thousand miles away from home didn’t help much.

i’m not looking for sympathy and i’m certainly not ashamed to admit all of this. because i learned a lesson. a hard lesson.

twice. in the same year.

i learnt that:

  • …love doesn’t mean leaning, and company doesn’t always mean security…you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts, and presents aren’t promises… {veronica a. shoftshall}
  • “to be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. it doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person’s opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.” {jocelyn soriano, mend my broken heart}
  • giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. – {anonymous}
  • there are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go. {anonymous}

let’s just do as dogs do…


moving on has allowed for healing. it has allowed me to see what i didn’t see before. so perhaps these ‘cleansing’ experiences  are what we need to make room for something better. much, much better