that time when a song gives you the feels.
janelle monae you genius you.
it’s been a long minute but this girl needed a break from blogging/tweeting/instagramming/facebooking.
social media detoxes do something to your soul. it’s got me feeling all kinds of it’s good to be back excited.
i’m staying off facebook for a while longer though. because facebook.
infuse your life with action. don’t wait for it to happen. make it happen. make your own future. make your own hope. make your own love. and whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on earth.
— bradley whitford —
thank you for your patience. it’s good to be back.
i should stop listening to other people’s opinions and focus on listening to my heart and mind (unless of course it is something that threatens my life).
that’s what i’ve learnt this year.
or more to the point, still learning.
everyone will always have something to say. always.
“Take a step back and view the world through your eyes, not someone else’s. Listen to your heart and decide what you really want.”
― Fennel Hudson, A Meaningful Life – Fennel’s Journal – No. 1
this video. it gives me chills (the good kind) every. time.
humans of new york – i was going to try to give you just one post but. i. can’t. pick. just. one. so just go here and indulge.
this article on how social media affects our mental health was a very interesting read indeed.
nigerian londoner turned utahn, alex boye, auditions on america’s got talent
i learnt what the cost of london housing vs the rest of world is here (warning: jaw dropping may occur)
this post about surrounding yourself with less from my favourite blogger megfee.
disclaimer: before i begin i want to say that this is my opinion as a young mormon woman. what i share is what i understand as well as my frustrations. my frustrations concern a specific cultural part of being mormon. some of you may not agree with me and that’s ok. but i will ask that if you do leave any comments please be polite.
i hope i give this justice. i really do. because i’ve been wanting to write about this for a while.
it. is. always. on. my. mind.
but i just haven’t been brave enough to get it all down.
a 20 year old female friend recently told me that while in a conversation with someone at church about what she planned to do after graduating from university next year, she was asked whether she wanted to go on a mission or get married. and when she said neither she was told she’d better pick between the two.
woah, woah, woah….come again?
two things here…
1. did i miss the boat? when did they become the only two options for a young mormon woman?
2. am i the only one who thinks getting married at 21 is not right for everyone? because WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME. our stories, our paths, are completely different. and i am very sure it was meant to be that way.
so when you tell me that i should be settled down right now i really really want to yell at you “do you know my life?”. i want to ask where i can find this timeline thing where i can tick off specific milestones because apparently i have totally missed the mark.
ok. let’s hit pause. let me inhale…..exhale. ok….
i might come across a feminist. and maybe i am. but whether or not you want to label it i’ve got to say it. as a nearly 30 year-old mormon woman i am tired. tired of my not-being-married being the thing that defines me. that often the conversation always comes back to ‘so who are you dating?’, ‘are you thinking about marriage?’.
yes i am. and i get it. the ideal, the eternal family ideal is what we all aim for (what i’m aiming for). and i do believe that being a mother or mother figure is the most beautiful calling a woman can have. but i feel we need to remember two important things:
1. being a wife and a mother should not be the only thing that defines me as a woman. i love this message that was given at the april 2008 general conference by elder m. russell ballard:
“…even as you try to cut out the extra commitments, sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well, and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children.”
2. and the lack thereof should also not be the thing that defines me.
i am developing myself right now. i’ve gotten to experience some incredible things, visit some amazing places, and meet the most wonderful people. it hasn’t been by choice, but more just the path that i find myself on. and i am ever-so-grateful for that path because…because it has made me.
from elder ballards quote i understand that even when i am a wife and a mother, i still need to develop me. i cannot be there for anyone else if my own soul is weak.
i get it. people want me to be ‘happy’.
but shock horror my happiness is not determined by my marital status.
and my path in life is not determined by anyone else but me and my Father in Heaven. it is, and always will be between Him and i.
it’s been sometime since i last checked in on my 30 things before 30 list. i haven’t been ignoring it, i promise!
here’s a quick update…
and lets be honest here – with less than a month to go i am probably not going to get everything done on the list. but since my last update i’ve completed the 3 courses in 3 countries plan, which was a stunning trip (catch up here and here). i got a midnight kiss on nye 🙂 bought a meal for a homeless person and for the splurge once in a lifetime item? i bought a mini cooper d.
seeing as technically i won’t be 31 for another year i plan to carry on these bucket list items until i am 31!
happy monday folks.
“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me.”
this past month has chewed me up and spat me out.
and yet i’m still here.
what’s that quote? “when life gives you lemons…stick them down your bra and make your boobs
yeah that one. i love it.
and this one too “when life gives you lemons squeeze them in people’s eyes” >>> this one just made me laugh out loud, even if it is a little mean.
as i get ready for another gruelling week…this video.
it is giving me life right now.
and that’s all i can ask for.
last year i talked about having more faith in 2014. and i’m still working on it.
2014 has been a year of ups and downs, but it’s also been a steady wave. does that even make sense?
it’s been a year of transitioning and learning and i don’t think this transitioning is over. to be honest i don’t think i’m ever going to get off the transitioning train!
because life is a constant transition.
“look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.”
― tom stoppard, rosencrantz and guildenstern are dead
what have i learned in 2014?
that i can’t control everything. but also that the act of letting go requires some kind of stability.
a sense stability in a state of instability.
“i’ve always believed there are moments in our lives which can be defined as a transition between the before and after, between the cause and the effect.”
― benjamin x. wretlind, castles: a fictional memoir of a girl with scissors
i learnt that laughter has great healing power.
and forgiveness is strength.
i learnt that i love frosty mornings and crunchy leaves as much as i love lazy afternoons on a humid july day.
i realised that it is never too late. and giving things a second go can be all the more worth it.
for 2015 i promise to wear even more lipstick. choose laughter over anger (counting to 10 helps right?). travel…
…wait no. what i really mean is explore. text less, call more. spend time. take risks. take photos. i need to take more photos.
“life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
i promise to unplug more often.
here’s to a happier, transitional, gorgeous 2015.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 5,800 times in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 5 trips to carry that many people.