day 12 | summer favourites

2015, Blogging, July

i flipped things around a little and instead of posting pictures today (as today is my actual birthday!) i did it for yesterday instead as that is when i really celebrated it!

and instead of an interview i’m going to review some summer favourites!

last year i posted this list of 101 things to do in the summer in britain

summer is my favourite because:
1. it’s my birthday
3. holidays
4. happier people
5. BBQ’s

this year i’m also sharing favourites from some of my readers!

BBQs, late night walks when it is still warm and trips to the beach!
kerry, reading uk

festivals and picnics at hyde park or greenwich in london
jessie, london uk

beach bbq’s, rambo camping and renting pedalos.
mike from teesside. whey <— teeside is in yorkshire (north england) and whey is a northern word so i’m keeping it in there. look it up!

drive-in movies and pool parties!
stacie, usa

Spending time in my garden.
bev, reading uk

baseball games and 4th july. 
jessica, usa

Picnics & BBQs. I don’t know why but there is just something I love about eating outside in the summer!
christina, reading uk

what are yours?

don’t forget to check out my list of 101 things to do in the summer in britain

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day 9 | an ephihany i had this year


i should stop listening to other people’s opinions and focus on listening to my heart and mind (unless of course it is something that threatens my life).

that’s what i’ve learnt this year.

or more to the point, still learning.

everyone will always have something to say. always.

“Take a step back and view the world through your eyes, not someone else’s. Listen to your heart and decide what you really want.”
― Fennel Hudson, A Meaningful Life – Fennel’s Journal – No. 1

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day 7 | favourite things on the internet from the past year


this video. it gives me chills (the good kind) every. time.

humans of new york – i was going to try to give you just one post but. i. can’t. pick. just. one. so just go here and indulge.

this article on how social media affects our mental health was a very interesting read indeed.

nigerian londoner turned utahn, alex boye, auditions on america’s got talent

i learnt what the cost of london housing vs the rest of world is here (warning: jaw dropping may occur)

this post about surrounding yourself with less from my favourite blogger megfee.

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day 6 | the soap box post (catch up)


disclaimer: before i begin i want to say that this is my opinion as a young mormon woman. what i share is what i understand as well as my frustrations. my frustrations concern a specific cultural part of being mormon. some of you may not agree with me and that’s ok. but i will ask that if you do leave any comments please be polite.

i hope i give this justice. i really do. because i’ve been wanting to write about this for a while.

it. is. always. on. my. mind.

but i just haven’t been brave enough to get it all down.

a 20 year old female friend recently told me that while in a conversation with someone at church about what she planned to do after graduating from university next year, she was asked whether she wanted to go on a mission or get married. and when she said neither she was told she’d better pick between the two.

woah, woah, woah….come again?

two things here…
1. did i miss the boat? when did they become the only two options for a young mormon woman?
2. am i the only one who thinks getting married at 21 is not right for everyone? because WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME. our stories, our paths, are completely different. and i am very sure it was meant to be that way.

so when you tell me that i should be settled down right now i really really want to yell at you “do you know my life?”. i want to ask where i can find this timeline thing where i can tick off specific milestones because apparently i have totally missed the mark.

ok. let’s hit pause. let me inhale…..exhale. ok….

i might come across a feminist. and maybe i am. but whether or not you want to label it i’ve got to say it. as a nearly 30 year-old mormon woman i am tired. tired of my not-being-married being the thing that defines me. that often the conversation always comes back to ‘so who are you dating?’, ‘are you thinking about marriage?’.

yes i am. and i get it. the ideal, the eternal family ideal is what we all aim for (what i’m aiming for). and i do believe that being a mother or mother figure is the most beautiful calling a woman can have. but i feel we need to remember two important things:
1. being a wife and a mother should not be the only thing that defines me as a woman. i love this message that was given at the april 2008 general conference by elder m. russell ballard:
“…even as you try to cut out the extra commitments, sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well, and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children.”
2. and the lack thereof should also not be the thing that defines me.

i am developing myself right now. i’ve gotten to experience some incredible things, visit some amazing places, and meet the most wonderful people. it hasn’t been by choice, but more just the path that i find myself on. and i am ever-so-grateful for that path because…because it has made me.

from elder ballards quote i understand that even when i am a wife and a mother, i still need to develop me. i cannot be there for anyone else if my own soul is weak.

i get it. people want me to be ‘happy’.

but shock horror my happiness is not determined by my marital status.

and my path in life is not determined by anyone else but me and my Father in Heaven. it is, and always will be between Him and i.

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day 5 | a bygone era

2015, Culture, July

let’s go back to 1995.

where giving directions consisted of ‘turn left at the post office, then take the second right after the pub’.

it was the year of toy story, golden eye, casper and jumanji.

these guys…



UNITED STATES - MAY 09:  SISTER, SISTER - Gallery 10/6/93 Tim Reid, Tamera Mowry, Tia Mowry, Jackee Harry  (Photo by ABC Photo Archives/ABC via Getty Images)

UNITED STATES – MAY 09: SISTER, SISTER – Gallery 10/6/93 Tim Reid, Tamera Mowry, Tia Mowry, Jackee Harry (Photo by ABC Photo Archives/ABC via Getty Images)

where rockstar queens mariah carey, janet jackson, alanis morissette and whitney houston ruled the musical airwaves.

it was the driest summer ever recoreded in the uk. and i remember the heat as i turned 10 that summer, i had a BBQ and water fight for my birthday.

1% of the uk population, that’s 600, 000 people, now had internet access.

yahoo was born and eBay went live.

the dvd format was introduced.

if my mum wanted to use the house phone i had to turn off the internet first.

and let’s not forget about the spice girls. because.


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day 4 | 15 things that cheer me up when i’m down

2015, Inspiration, July

just last week i was feeling incredibly angry. for 4 whole days. and i had no idea why.

then a couple of days ago, that thing that comes every month to say “hey you’re not pregnant” reminded me. but goodness gracious it’s been a while since my hormones came and slapped me in the face like that. so much so i wanted to high five (in the face, with a chair) everyone else just so they could get a glimpse into what i was feeling.

it was weird.

there are a few things i do when i’m feeling like that though…

1. listen to music : of the ‘cheer up my soul’ kind and ‘wonder’ by emeli sande is my go to song

2. buy fresh flowers for yourself : i try to buy myself a bouquet of flowers every week. it was the line from my favourite quote/poem “Comes the Dawn” that i decided it needed to be done:
“…After a while you learn.
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers…”


3. talk to a friend : i do this when i’m particularly feeling down. i consider myself lucky to have friends who will moan with me, or just listen. and i do this by phone or in person. it’s the best way.

4. work on a hobby : mine right now is photography. i’ve been thinking about it for years but only recently purchased my first dslr camera (my previous one was a bridge camera). with a 50mm lense too and my oh my. it is thrilling learning what my canon 100d (ok it’s a starter camera) with the 50mm lens.

5. food. GLORIOUS FOOD : i treat myself to something i don’t have on a regualr basis (which is a lie because the way the last 6 months have been i’ve ‘treated’ myself regularly). recently it was a delicious strawberry/snickers/flake milkshake from shakeaway #getinmybelly


6. go out and explore : if you’ve been reading this blog for a while you know i like to travel. but this year i wanted to explore more. whether it’s neighbourhood, a rustic city or a tropical island the idea is to GET OUT and explore.

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7. reading : this is a form of escapism for me. i find that getting lost in a book helps distract me from the stresses or sadness i’m feeling. and i often feel better afterwards.

8. prayer and meditation : i am christian so i try to turn to prayer a lot to express my deepest thoughts and questions. mediation. that stillness is divine. i’m still learning to do this but the need for it is very human. check out what arianna huffington had to say about the importance of meditation here.

9. exercise : i hate it and love it at the same time. whether it’s a brisk walk, yoga or a hard core work out i always feel better. every. damn. time.

10.  give a hug. a really good one : i’m talking about the linger longer kinda hug. .

11.  laugh and laugh some more : laughter is good for the soul. i strongly believe that. and i believe it acts as an incredible healing balm.

Laughter is an instant vacation.
Milton Berle

12. stay away from the internet : these days there is so much noise online that it’s hard to stay focused. or to not compare our ‘behind the scenes’ with someone else’s ‘highlight reel’. the internet has allowed for many things to be easier, like staying in touch, expressing thoughts and feelings and sharing. lots and lots of sharing. but gah. there are moments when turning it all off is the best thing i can do for myself.

no internet

13.  writing in my journal : i used to be very good at this and wrote something down everyday. but for now, when i do write, as with number 3 where talking to a friend helps a great deal, writing what i’m feeling helps to ease the burden. i always come away feeling lighter.

14. candles : there’s something about the aroma of candles that lifts my spirits.

15. tidy up : i live in a shared house and when my room is a mess my thoughts tend to be too. spending 15 – 30 mins to tidy ‘clears’ my mind.

and there you have. 15 things that cheer me up when i’m down. every time.

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day 3 | my top five travel tips

Inspiration, July, Travel

travel tips

1. meet local people

the one thing i have learnt with my travel experiencing (granted this isn’t of the backpacking kind) is to meet the locals. booking via a couch-surfing type site like or you’ll certainly be able to. basic english is spoken in most countries so you can find a way to begin the dialogue. you can learn the best places to go (that won’t rip you off) and where to avoid.

2. wake up early

i believe in this whether you are going on a city break or beach holiday. even though i am not a morning person, getting up early can allow you to get in early on some tourist attractions and enjoy a sun lounger in a little peace. it can be a magical time for photos too!

3. take lots of photos

who cares if you look like a tourist? you are one! some places you might only get to visit once in your life time (gosh the thought of that just made me very sad). photos are priceless; easily shareable, do not cost you a penny and with the digital world these days, can last a life time.

4. eat local food

just as important as meeting the locals is eating like a local. to be honest, in my experience this is where i have found the best (and often cheaper) food. dig in, and taste a bit of everything.

5. break out of your comfort zone / slow down

i put these two together because i feel they connect. do not be afraid of trying something different. slow down to embrace and enjoy every. single. damn. moment. soak it up. drink it up. and don’t plan too much. it almost ruins the adventure.

wonderlust. it’s a beautiful thing.

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day 2 | five favourite youtubers

2015, Blogging, Culture, Inspiration, July

shirley b eniang

shirley is probably my favourite and my go to for make-up and hair tips. she’s got a clean and fresh look. she also inspired my white-on-white obsession (when it comes room décor). she’s got such a great energy and can i add that she’s also gorgeous? #girlcrush right there.

patricia bright

patricia is right up there with shirley. i just love her positive attitude to life! her and her husband are an adorable couple too #relationshipgoals

sonna rele

her voice tho. i stumbled on sonna last year and have been keeping up with her music monday posts. i love watching her journey and look forward to seeing what the future hold for her.

soul pancake

i’ve talked about soul pancake a couple of times. one of the best things on the internet. sight alongside humans of new york, soul pancake brings a sense of peace, love and all things good back to humanity.  i’m not a cat person…but kittens. oh my lanta.

how it should have ended

because we all need to have alternative endings to movies. literally.

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