blog everyday in july | the details

2015, Blogging, June

blog everyday in july is just around the corner and as i did last year i would like to invite other bloggers to join me!

starting on the 1st of july i’ll be posting once a day on a topic as listed below.

to join in feel free to use the guided list of topics for each day, all i ask is that you refer back to this blog 🙂

also for the whole month i will be using the hash tag #bedij15 —> use this too so we can all see what has been shared! whether that’s on your blog, twitter, instagram or facebook.

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1st: Introduce yourself: welcome and 10 things you didn’t know about me

2nd: Five of your favourite YouTubers + what you love about them.

3rd: Your top 5 ‘anything’ tips

4th: A list of ten things that always cheers you up when you’re down

5th: Nostalgia: write about a bygone era

6th: The Soap Box post

7th: Favourite things on the internet from the past year.

8th: WCW (woman crush wednesday)

9th: An epiphany you had this year

10th: My make-up must haves

11th: Interview: reader / industry experts / other bloggers

12th: Today in pictures

13th: A diary exert

14th: My favorite blogging tools are …

15th: Music that moves me

16th: Write a letter to yourself 20 years from now

17th: Your top 3 worst traits

18th: If you could drop everything and get on a plane for a two week holiday right now, where would you go and why?

19th: Five People: I’d like to have dinner with

20th: What advice would you give to someone about to graduate from university?

21st: Currently (reading, writing, listening, thinking, smelling, wishing, hoping, wearing, wanting, loving, needing)

22nd: Guest post

23rd: Throwback Thursday

24th: Things that make you uncomfortable

25th: Upcycle project! Upcycle something and show us pictures and the steps to how you did it

26th: Who were your celebrity crushes from your childhood?

27th: What are you struggling with right now?

28th: I never thought blogging would…

29th: Lesson from the past year

30th: xx things to do before you’re xx

31st: you did it! and a thank you 🙂

there you have it. are you excited? i am #bedij15
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it’s that time of year again #bedij15

2015, Blogging, June

it’s nearly july!! where has 2015 gone?

and that means it’s almost my birthday month. i’m not going to lie folks, i’m a little weirded out. it’s my 30th.

that’s right, the big THREE-O.

i’m weirded out because thirty sounds so. mature.

and i feel so far from it.

i mean i now have to tick a different box.

**sigh**

for the last 2 years i have enjoyed blogging every single day for the month of july. it’s a fun experience and definitely refreshing to post frequently. blogging is one of creative outlets that i keep saying i need to do more often…so this is my annual opportunity to!

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if you’re new to blogging, a veteran or somewhere in between i’d like to invite you to join me on #bedij15

this is a great way to get back on the blogosphere if you have fallen off the wagon a little (like me!). last year i got the pleasure of blogging alongside my birthday twin, hippiechickj. it was hella fun.

here are some quick tips on how to keep it up for the entire month:

blog everyday quick tips

come back tomorrow as i take you through the 31 posts for july.

#bedij15

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30 things before 30 update

2014

it’s been sometime since i last checked in on my 30 things before 30 list. i haven’t been ignoring it, i promise!

here’s a quick update…

  1. visit paris
  2. three courses, three countries: breakfast in london, lunch in paris, dinner in brussels
  3. eat at a mitchelin starred restaurant in london
  4. try something i wouldn’t normally eat
  5. start a small business
  6. run a 5k (this one scares me to death)
  7. unplug for a full day (or maybe a week!): no phone, social media, tv etc.
  8. kiss someone on nye at midnight
  9. live abroad for at least a year
  10. buy a meal for a homeless person
  11. lose 2 stone / 12.7 kg / 28 lbs
  12. have a morning routine
  13. climb to the top of the eiffel tower
  14. go the cinema on my own
  15. see a play at shakespeare’s globe in london
  16. sort out a pension and life insurance (eek!)
  17. go to a music festival
  18. learn to speak conversational french
  19. do a “once-in-a-lifetime” thing
  20. splurge on an item i can’t afford  but that will last a life-time
  21. serve at a soup kitchen
  22. take a poetry class
  23. re-read all 7 harry potter books (hello christmas present)
  24. start a work-out routine
  25. write a short story
  26. go a on british countryside walk
  27. serve a full-time mission for the lds church
  28. re-watch fringe
  29. visit new york
  30. go hot-tubbing under the stars

fifteen down!

and lets be honest here – with less than a month to go i am probably not going to get everything done on the list. but since my last update i’ve completed the 3 courses in 3 countries plan, which was a stunning trip (catch up here and here). i got a midnight kiss on nye 🙂 bought a meal for a homeless person and for the splurge once in a lifetime item? i bought a mini cooper d.

naturally.

seeing as technically i won’t be 31 for another year i plan to carry on these bucket list items until i am 31!

happy monday folks.

“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me.”
– Erma Bombeck

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the seduction of inadequacy | body image

2015, Healthy Living, Inspiration, June

i’ve had this post saved in my drafts for some time. 7 months to be precise.

seduction of inadequacy

partly because i was waiting for the right time. when all i want to say was coherent enough.

and more than coherent, eloquent enough.

i want to be able adequately express how i feel about this, without sounding soap-boxish.

but let’s just be honest here. i’m gonna have to get my soap box out.

for as long as i can remember i have had major body image insecurities. and more so in my 20’s than i did when i was a teenager. i’ll come to the reason for this later.

we are bombarded… well… pummelled with:

get beach body ready. lose 10lbs in 2 weeks! fat burning pills. “insert abs here”. how to look good naked. drop 2 sizes in 2 weeks. bikini ready in 7 days!

my favourite blogger {and i don’t say favourite lightly} megfee had this to say about that whole “get beach body ready” thing:

So when some advertiser asks me, Are you beach body ready? I want to look them square in the eye and say, yeah, I got lungs and arms and legs that’ll kick, so how dare you try to tell me that my golden-ticket to the beach is how good I look in a bikini. My body–how it looks–is not not for you… So kindly BACK. OFF.

sigh. she writes stuff that stirs my soul. so much so it moved me to finish this post. read the rest of her post titled ‘changing the conversation’ here. SUCH a delicious read. and i might reference that post again later.

i recently saw this one: “run yourself to slim + happy”

wait. so being slim will make me happy?

here are some stats for you {these are uk stats but i am positive run throughout the western world}:

  • 60% of adults report feeling ashamed of the way they look (Centre for Appearance Research 2012)
  • 70% of adult women and 40% of adult men report that they have felt pressure from television and magazines to have a perfect body (Centre for Appearance Research 2012)
  • 34% of adolescent boys and 49% of girls have been on a diet to change their body shape or to lose weight (Centre for Appearance Research & Central YMCA 2011)
  • It is estimated that roughly two thirds of adults suffer from negative body image (All Party Parliamentary Group on Body Image Report, 2012)
  • 42% of girls and young women feel that the most negative part about being a female is the pressure to look attractive (Girl Guiding UK, Girls Attitude Survey 2010)

are you surprised?

megfee goes on to say:

So to eliminate fat-talk is to actually change the way in which we experience our bodies in the world…yup, that slow-moving-realization, that’s the rumblings of a revolution, my friends.

It’s important to move our bodies. It’s important to do really difficult things. It improves brain elasticity and builds bone density. But to go to to a circuit class and lift heavy weights and crunch until I’m barely breathing all while the instructors tells me to keep going because on the other side of the pain is a pair of skinny jeans, one size smaller…well that is too flimsy a reason.

And frankly, insulting.

My body is doing really difficult things and you’re going to berate it for not being smaller?

and what do i mean by the seduction of inadequacy? well first off the phrase isn’t mine {even though i wish it was}. it was said by the beautiful lupita nyong’o. in a speech given at the essence magazine 7th annual black women in hollywood event. and while she primarily talked about the different ‘shades’ of beauty {for that is a whole other conversation}, it rings true to each of us.

frankly, inadequacy in seductive. and that is what the media feeds on.

i wrote earlier that body image has affected me more in my twenties than it did when i was a teenager. in truth it is because i have gained weight in my twenties {i’m going to throw it out there and say that that is normal?}, but also with the rise of social media and the poisonous tentacles of the media as a whole, i am even more aware of how far from that ‘perfection’ i am.

these days people who haven’t seen me in a few years tell me how much weight i have gained. because that’s exactly how you greet someone. 

i have always have been, and continue to be, told how ‘thick’ or big i am. or how i’ve ‘got body’ as they say in my culture.

enough with it.

so with megfee i stand, let’s change the conversation. let’s stop the fat-talk and weight shaming {can i add that i despise that????}. let’s not talk about how guilty we feel if we have a biscuit or 5 in the office. instead let’s celebrate the fact that we have food in abundance. let’s discuss being healthy no matter how we are built. let’s talk about the gift that is our bodies and how as women we {mostly} have the ability to grow another human inside of it.

because if you’re able to walk or use your arms or both, if you are a breathing human being, then you are beach body ready.

ok i’ll put my soap box away now.

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3 courses, 3 days, 3 countries | part II

2015, Culture, Food, June, Travel

happy first day of june. the weeks literally fly by, and i feel especially when

so apparently i started writing this post on june 1st. and 10 days later i’m actually completing it…i promise i wanted to get this up a lot earlier than that but at the moment i seem to posses an inability to post regularly. as in, more than once a month.

and for that i apologise.

to finish my 3 courses, 3 days, 3 countries post i close with brussels.

brussels is beautiful and quaint. and a cobbled streets-kind of charming.

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^^that beautiful, coloured building right there is at grote markt or grand place. it lit up like that at night. i couldn’t believe my eyes. i had this overwhelming feeling that if i twirled i could be a princess.

that’s the only way i can describe what seeing that felt like.

we ate our dinner part of the trip at a sweet pub restaurant called skeivelat. caroline and i opted for the house ribs. and oh my.

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can someone say lip smacking? or finger licking… well there i said it. because that’s what happened.

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and you can’t leave brussles without sampling some kind of chocolate.

you just can’t.

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“Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living.” – Miriam Beard

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