day 13: a hard lesson learned

2014, Blogging, Inspiration, July, Love

imagine meeting someone who understands even the dustiest corners of your mixed-up soul.
– unkown –

dating. and broken hearts. shed tears. and disappointment.

last year i dated two guys, almost one after the other, who weren’t really good for me from the beginning. but i clung on because at the time there was nothing else. and i needed it. i needed someone. i needed something. and anything was better than the loneliness that i was feeling. it was a kind of hollowness i had never felt before.

it was at a time when an unwelcome change had occurred in my life and i didn’t have anyone. at least at that moment it felt that way. plus being several thousand miles away from home didn’t help much.

i’m not looking for sympathy and i’m certainly not ashamed to admit all of this. because i learned a lesson. a hard lesson.

twice. in the same year.

i learnt that:

  • …love doesn’t mean leaning, and company doesn’t always mean security…you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts, and presents aren’t promises… {veronica a. shoftshall}
  • “to be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. it doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person’s opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.” {jocelyn soriano, mend my broken heart}
  • giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. – {anonymous}
  • there are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go. {anonymous}

let’s just do as dogs do…


moving on has allowed for healing. it has allowed me to see what i didn’t see before. so perhaps these ‘cleansing’ experiences  are what we need to make room for something better. much, much better



2 thoughts on “day 13: a hard lesson learned

    1. you are so very welcome. break-ups are hard, i’m glad reading this helped. it certainly helped me during that time!

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